Your Child Didn’t Make the Varsity Team –– What’s Next?

It’s a tough time for parents and kids alike: you’ve both worked hard to make the team, only to find out things didn’t work out the way you wanted. How do you handle the disappointment and get back on track?

Let Them Be Upset

It’s normal to be sad. It’s okay to be angry. And it’s fine to be disappointed when something you were waiting for and working towards for months doesn’t end up happening after all.

Try to lead a positive conversation about the experience by asking your young athlete what they believe they’ve accomplished in the process, what skills they’ve gained, and what they most enjoyed about trying out.

Competitive sports are a wonderful way to learn the value of teamwork, collaboration, and hard work. Maybe the greatest lesson of all, though, is that sometimes in sports –– and in life –– we have to be able to pivot when circumstances change. Not making the team this time doesn’t mean your kid’s commitment to athletics has to end. Younger athletes especially should experiment with different sports and see what else they enjoy. Nobody succeeds at everything they try, and learning to deal with disappointment at a young age will only help make their future best even better.

Ask For Feedback

Any player who’s willing to seek help and advice is going to catch the attention of a good coach. Asking for feedback shows dedication, commitment, and a willingness to improve –– all characteristics that coaches love to see in young athletes. That coach might remember your son or daughter next season, especially when they see how their advice has been put into practice.

Make a Game Plan

Whether it’s focusing on speed and agility or building muscle strength, the coaches and staff at Redline Athletics can help you decide on a way forward. The disappointment of not making the team this time often inspires young athletes to rededicate themselves to their sport. Set measurable, achievable goals for improvement, stick to a plan, and you’ll prepare them for a lifelong love of athletics.